Change Who?

In the midst of dealing with difficult people and or situations, at what point will you understand you can not change another person? In fact, you cant even change yourself. (Oh how little do we really understand)!!

With an open heart, only God can and will do the changing and transformation needed in each individual.

As I think about things I allow to uproot my peace, I realize that some stress can be alleviated by letting go emotionally and stop trying to control and conform people and circumstances to fit me. At one point I was notorious for that, until God started dealing with me. What I would like to convey to others is that you will have a better chance of making yourself sick, miserable, bitter, and angry than you will in changing and controlling the other person.

Especially in marriage!

There is always one personality that is more dominate in relationships and in some more extreme than others!

In a difficult marriage when you are the one seeking help from God to change the other and fix things. I can guarantee that you will be the one God starts with. I know that may be offensive to the person seeking God's help and If you're like me, you're thinking you are not the one that needs changing! LOL

But the Lord see differently! He knows you are exactly the one that needs changing, otherwise how can He use you in the lives of those around you?

First, you cannot go to God pointing the finger at your spouse without God turning that finger back around at you. I know it is a hard pill to swallow! Especially if you feel the spouse is the one hurting the marriage. Sometimes we measure actions and behaviors deciding who is worse and minimizing our own. No one is faultless and it is important to ask God to search your heart, revealing hidden iniquities (Psalm 19:12).

Second, God need you to have a pure heart when you pray because sin places a barrier between you and God and compromise any prayer, you petition Him with (Psalm 66:18). Having a pure heart allows you to see your spouse as God see them, not to diminish injurious behavior but to see them as one of God’s children needing to be free from whatever torment is going on internally just like you. Not easy, I know!!!

Believe me, whatever situations you are facing, God knew it would happen long before it manifested into reality. He allowed it and God will use your pain as a foundation to birth purpose!

But before He reveal to you your purpose, you have to let him search you, prune you and refine you while working out the kinks within you.

Feel free to comment, I would love to hear your thoughts!

Blessings,

N The Midst Of

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