Intimate Partner Bully

Are you a victim or victorious?

Has it occurred to you that God has always set aside some people as His unique chosen ones? It doesn’t feel special as children grow up in school and do not understand why it’s hard to gain friends or that you never seem to fit in. What about in middle and high school, when you gravitated towards those who made you look good, but they weren’t your friends?

These traits follow people into relationships, often leading to codependency. News flash: bullying doesn’t only happen as a child or in school; it also takes place in marriage and intimate relationships. As hard as it is to accept, some people don’t have to worry about being made fun of or mistreated by friends or coworkers because, as sad as it is, more people than you know are enduring this behind closed doors in marriage / intimate relationships as a weapon to control and destroy your self-worth. Are you being bullied in your relationship? Do you feel like your spouse, their family, and friends are all in a circle together, mocking and making fun of you on the outside of the circle because you don’t follow the status quo? I want people to think about this question seriously. It can be hurtful and push people to dark places, just like kids or young adults.

It’s essential to know your worth, and instead of becoming the victim, become victorious and start with self-awareness. Sometimes, that means taking a stroll back in time and examining the root of all open wounds that have never been healed and closed so you can better handle the attacks as an adult and ward off the lies and illusions you started believing about yourself.

Sometimes, God separates His chosen ones from toxicity to heal internal wounds and create beauty from the ashes of your heart over the years (Isaiah 61:3). Will you let Him? 

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